What is fame? How do you define fame? And how does one become famous? These questions have surely come up in conversations over time, and with the emergence of the Internet and social media–being famous seems to be the popular thing to become these days. Of course people have been trying to become famous for hundreds of years now (if not, thousands), but lately–it’s turned into an obsession. Think about it: people think they’re famous now because of how many likes they get on their Facebook page, the amount of followers on their Twitter account, and the amount of “double taps” that they get on their Instagram account. It’s a slippery slope to go down once someone receives attention. No longer is success attributed to hard work–instead it’s perceived as something that’s easy. With a few clicks of the mouse and uploading a few images, one can garner attention from virtually anyone on the planet.
The picture above is what most men dream about. Being good-looking, financially stable, and having your pick of beautiful women at your disposal. But if you dig deeper, you’ll see that the above picture doesn’t tell you that this guy got dismissed from the Navy SEALS just two days before graduation (WTF?), is a trust fund beneficiary (trust fund baby), poker player (a pretty crappy one), and actor (aren’t we all?). Billed as the “King of Instagram” for his outrageous lifestyle, Dan Bilzerian is always seen with a few girls (twenty) and with his recent fifteen minutes of fame, Bilzerian has managed to throw a pornstar off a roof, and he kicked a woman in a face at a Miami club brawl. It’s a shame that we make people like this guy “famous” because of the life that he lives and what he uploads on his social media accounts. He makes the Kardashians reality TV shows look like a joke with his following on social media (just imagine if he was on TV!). Now you’re probably telling yourself that I’m jealous of this guy, or I’m being too harsh on the guy. Maybe I am, but he was the perfect choice in exploiting narcissistic behavior. Oh, and did I mention that he got arrested today at LAX airport for making a bomb? Yeah. Somebody forgot to tell this guy that he wasn’t on the set of Expendables 4, and instead at an airport and in reality, not Dan’s world.
Being famous extends out to the fitness and modeling industry (shocking, I know). A few snapshots in front of a mirror with an iPhone, then uploading them to a social media account–where anyone can like, comment, retweet, and comment on their picture. Attention spurs inflated egos, and before you know it–you’re like Pagie Hathaway. Paige is beautiful, fit, and has a seemingly good personality. She’s become popular with her inspiring transformation, and from her workout tips and recipes that she shares with her fans. Guys obviously follow her closely because of her good looks. Earlier this year, I reached out to Paige for an interview/feature on my blog. I’m not the biggest blogger around, nor do I drive the most traffic with my blog, but I wasn’t prepared for Paige’s rudeness towards me and why she was adamant about doing interviews with blogs/sites that generate a ton of a traffic. I get it: she’s a very popular figure and has to maintain her “stardom” but here’s the kicker: she never emailed me back to say no to me. Instead she just stopped emailing me altogether, and I just let it go. I was very puzzled by this behavior, but as the old saying goes: you can’t win ’em all!
Here’s another “model” that couldn’t even get my name right in an email exchange to do an interview/feature on her. Yes, she’s attractive, but that’s about it. As Jesse Eisenberg (Mark Zukerberg) said in the Social Network “moving on.”
Narcissism is a serious issue in today’s world. We are all connected with a sense of wanting to be liked through screens of all sizes. Technology has let us “shortcut” our way to success. It’s a double-edged sword, but if you’re not careful–you will fall into the pitfalls of the people mentioned above. Be careful what you wish for, and work hard for what you want, treat people as human beings, and don’t just look for countless ways to become famous. Be you, and the rest will fall into place.
*I want to thank a few people who have helped me with my blog and took the time to let me interview/feature them, even though they had busy schedules.
Abigail Ratchford: After interviewing Abigail in the summer of 2013, we have become great friends and she’s just a phone call away from me to talk about anything.
Josh Macciello: Josh is a great friend of mine (and billionaire) that has always been there to encourage me and give me advice.
Kennedy Summers: “Playmate of the Year 2014” Kennedy Summers is a Harvard graduate, and she was kind enough to set aside time from her busy modeling career and school schedule–to let me interview her.
The people mentioned above are the examples of being famous, and not losing their integrity in the process.